Saturday, January 12, 2019
Being gay is awesome! Here is what I love about being gay, in no particular order....
1. Swooning over really cute guys.
2. Swooning over really handsome guys.
3. Swooning over guys who are both cute and handsome.
4. Swooning over guys who have a nice fit body and nice muscular definition.
5. Swooning over guys who have a nice fit body and nice muscular definition, as well as being both cute and handsome.
6. Kissing or having sex with all of the above (or fantasizing about it!).
7. That I can wear spandex cycling shorts and not worry about looking "too gay" because I am gay!
8. That I can wear short shorts and not worry about looking "too gay" because I am gay!
9. That I can wear a speedo swim suit and not worry about looking "too gay" because I am gay!
10. That if someone says that I look "too gay" what they're really (inadvertently) telling me is that I'm rockin' it!
11. Looking at other guys who are wearing spandex cycling shorts, short shorts or a speedo! Yay!
12. That I can wear any item of clothing in pink or pride rainbow colours if I wanted to, and know that I'd be rockin' it!
13. That wearing leather stuff (hat, vest, pants, etc.) is appreciated more profoundly around other gay guys, while also being "cool" to my hetero friends.
14. That I can share or swap clothes with gay friends who wear the same size as me, and therefore make our bond of friendship closer.
15. That I can talk about or swoon over cute guys with my gay friends.
16. When a cute guy flirts with me, I can flirt back (if I'm not feeling too shy!).
17. Letting my true spirit shine.
18. Swooning over a cute guy who has long lair! Yummy!
19. Staring at a hot guy's nice, shapely behind.
20. That going to the gym is like entering a secret utopian world! Ooh la la!
21. Looking at photos of hot n' sexy hetero dudes who posted selfies of themselves wearing only a towel (or naked!) online not realizing that gay guys all over the world would be salivating over their picture for the rest of eternity. My sincerest of thanks!
22. Finding out that a favourite actor, singer, artist or celebrity is gay in real life! I love when this happens!
23. Swooning over pictures of Scott Baio circa 1980, even though today he's an anti-gay conservative. Wa, wa, wa! (He was one of my childhood crushes!)
24. That I can watch a movie like Brokeback Mountain with a deeper level of understanding, and allow myself to cry if I want to.
25. That my struggle to accept myself for who I am, and to be gay in a predominantly heterosexual society has taught me to have more empathy for others, and to have a kind heart.
26. Going shopping for cute underwear with my friend Stevie! :)
Monday, September 24, 2018
This past summer, likely sometime in July (2018), I came across this Pride themed Pepsi can in a local corner store. I know it's just a Pepsi can so it may not seem like a big deal to some people, but for me, I was quite taken aback and surprised to see it. In fact it still seems a bit surreal.
Seeing this Pepsi can decorated with the pride flag, I instantly thought about my high school days in the late 1980's. I would often get a can of Pepsi from the vending machine in the school cafeteria to drink at lunch time while hanging out with my best friend. The cans were quite different then, and much smaller. Though, that's not all that was different. In the late 1980's it still wasn't considered a hate crime to beat someone up for being gay, or to write "fag" on someone's locker. Maybe if there was a witness to the beating the person could be charged with assault, but it wouldn't have been considered a hate crime. Getting the attacker arrested would also depend on the officer who showed up, as once they learned that the person who had been beaten was gay it was possible that the officer might decide that they didn't see anything worth reporting.
By 1989, homosexuality (or to be technical "engaging in sexual activity with the same-sex") had only been legal in Canada for 20 years, since 1969. Social prejudice of any kind towards a minority group takes a long time to change, so in the late 1980's the outlook toward being gay was still quite derogatory. Gay folks were no longer being arrested for being gay like they were in the 1960's and earlier, but they were still being fired from their jobs, kicked out of their parents house, socially ostracized, harassed, bullied, and generally discriminated against in every aspect of their lives. Unlike today where some folks might purposefully chose to lead a gay lifestyle, such as having a gay fling or a long term relationship, back then being gay was not something that you signed up for or chose to be. It was something unfortunate that you got stuck with due to the whim of Mother Nature. The simple fact is, most people who are gay are born with a same-sex sexual preference and don't have the option to chose to be gay or heterosexual.
Fortunately I never experienced any violence in high school, nor was I ever bullied for being gay because I simply never told anyone that I was gay. I kept my same-sex feelings to myself. Frankly, I was much too confused about my gayness to accept how I felt. At the time I didn't understand why I liked guys so much and I struggled with the reality that I was sexually interested them. It confused me that I didn't have those same feelings for girls, but would instead look at other guys at my school that I thought were cute while feeling on the inside like I was swooning over them. I didn't want to be gay or accept that I was gay because having grown up in a catholic community I was taught that it was shameful, disgraceful, and perverted to be gay.
Of course I now know that's all a load of BS and I'm very proud to be gay. At the time however, knowing that I could be beaten up or bullied for being gay completely terrified me. Quite simply, I was a frightened teenager all throughout high school. For the sake of survival I supressed a lot of my genuine thoughts and feelings in order to hide my true identity from others, and from myself. Somehow, I endured this feeling of continuous fear from grade seven to graduation, essentially from 1987 to 1993. For me, the fear was just a part of being in high school.
Fast forward 30 years, so much has changed regarding gay rights that even the Pepsi cans have Pride rainbows on them! It's surreal to me, but it's a good feeling. Today police officers all across Canada walk in Pride parades to show their support for the gay community, gay teenagers are able to be openly gay in high school and take their sweetheart to the school prom, and colleges and universities have pride centres to make gay students feel welcome. It's a new world! And its one that at last I feel comfortable being my genuine self in, to be openly gay and to let my true spirit shine. I'll gladly drink a Pepsi to that! :)
Friday, September 14, 2018
It goes without saying, this blog needs more photos of Bruno Santos so now he has his own page! :)
Sunday, September 9, 2018
Friday, September 7, 2018
OMG!!! Can you believe your eyes? This guy is so beautiful!!! Talk about being born with it! It's just amazing to me how beautiful some men are, and this is a perfect example of that, literally perfect! He's flawless! Though I do wonder how much of this photo is real and how much is digitally touched up, but my goodness the end result certainly is breathtaking! That a guy can be so beautiful and stunning to look at leaves me in awe. I especially love his long hair! For me, that puts this photo over the top! With the long hair hanging next to such a cute and handsome face, combined with his strong, muscular body, and that skimpy wet speedo style bathing suit that barley hides his amazing bubble butt, his beauty just leaves me astonished!!! (Sigh!) Life is good! :)
Friday, July 13, 2018
Singer and actor Tab Hunter became a Hollywood icon during my parent's generation. Although his rise to fame and the height of his career occurred well before my time, I was saddened to hear that he had passed away on Sunday, July 8 2018 at the age of 86.
I know little about Mr. Hunter and his career, and I can't claim to be a fan of his films as the only one I've seen, that I'm aware of anyway, is Grease 2 which is hardly a film one could reasonably measure his talents by. Instead, like many gay men my age, I'm mainly affected by Tab Hunter's sudden passing because of his role as a gay icon, and a very handsome one at that! It's understandable as to why he attracted such a devoted following of girls during the late 1950's, with his blond hair and his sweet smile Tab Hunter's looks were well suited to movie screens, on which he apparently spent a lot of time without a shirt... something that I'm looking forward to investigating further!
Yet quite remarkably, as with many other leading male Hollywood actors, Tab Hunter was forced to live a double life from his childhood in the 30's through to his senior aged adulthood, only recently confirming publicly in 2005 that he was gay.
His fame occurred at a time when society was so intolerant toward homosexuals that most treated the subject as being too taboo to even talk about, and as such for the sake of his career and more importantly for the sake of his safety and well being, it was not only prudent but necessary for Tab Hunter to hide the fact that he was gay. I find it ironic that quite contrary to the so called "controversy" of being gay, Tab Hunter seems to have been quite a gentleman and never did anything that was actually controversial... no excessive drug use or public incidents of drunkenness, no reckless driving, no forced sexual contact, no scandals what so ever! Evidently he was quite a respectable human being which, I think it's fair to say, is rare in Hollywood.
How sad and shameful that society forced a good man like Tab Hunter to live out the majority of his life in secrecy, concealing his true self and his true spirit from the world, just because he was gay. In the least, it's comforting to know that through it all he persevered to find a few steady partners over his lifetime. He also spent the last 35 years with partner and film producer Allan Glaser, who was quoted in the media stating that Tab Hunter's death was "sudden and unexpected".
Tab Hunter and Roddy McDowell
Tab Hunter as he appeared at the height of his fame in the late 1950's.
Tab Hunter and Rudolph Nureyev
Tab Hunter... looks good with his shirt on too! :)
A more recent image of Tab Hunter, and his younger self from the late 1950's.
In Memory of Tab Hunter
1931 - 2018